Alright Ladies, tonight’s post is for you.

It’s time to get real. No, I mean really real. We live in a time when sex is all over. We’re taught to be sexy. We’re told that “friends with benefits” is empowering and satisfying. We’re equal to men, we can equally screw around the way they do. So let’s get real about being equal.

You both willingly get caught up in the moment, you both decide to not use protection. Oh let’s be real ladies, we all can walk down to Planned Parenthood, our own gynecologists, or even to the Health Center and get birth control pills almost as easily as a guy can grab a pack of condoms. We no longer live in a time where the responsibility is all on the guy to provide protection. We have responsibility too. We willingly have sex without being on the pill and without using condoms.

Women protest the idea of Planned Parenthood being de-funded because we need to have access to birth control. We have to be equal to men. We have to have equal access to our own protection.

So ladies, why then when the pregnancy stick turns up positive do we think we are superior to men? Why do we then think the man that helped create that life does not have the right to know about it?

I’m sure I’ll get the typical response of “My body, my choice” but really, it isn’t just your body. When we as women get pregnant we then have a new body that we’re carrying inside of us. There is a “fetus” (if we have to keep it scientific because “baby” is just far too offensive for some) that fetus has its own skull, brain, teeth, fingers…it is a growing body. So there’s now another body in a woman’s body. That body is a life and doesn’t get to voice it’s choice. You are choosing what will be done not only to your body, but to that other body growing inside of you.

Now let’s get back to equality. That man was a willing participant in having sex, he was aware that he wasn’t using a condom, and even if he did use a condom he knows the risks. If we choose to continue with a pregnancy ya’ll know darn straight that he’d have to pay his share to provide for that new life. It’s only right right? He should have to pay for the life of his child…otherwise he’d be a deadbeat dad. His DNA went into making that baby so he’d be held accountable for helping raise it…at least financially in our country.

So why is it that men don’t have a right to know about their child? Why can we as women choose to take the life of their child and not even get their opinion on doing so? Aren’t we equal to men? Better yet, aren’t men equal to us? Why don’t they have a voice in this decision?

This post isn’t related to apologetics or Christianity, it isn’t something I would typically write about.  In the spirit of staying salty I felt the need to address the fact that for some reason there seems to be a significant increase in women in my area getting abortions. They do so without even informing the father that they created a life….and that the life is being taken. Where is the equality in that?

Ladies, if we willingly get into bed with a man, regardless of if that man is the love of your life or a guy you met at a party, we know the risks we are taking. We know that we can get pregnant. We are fortunate enough to live in a country where we have access to methods to prevent that from happening. We’re doing something wrong as a generation if we are using abortion as a form of birth control. We know how to protect ourselves, lets do that ahead of time.

And let’s be real, if we are responsible enough to make the choice to have sex we need to be responsible enough to handle a pregnancy. We sure as heck need to be mature enough to sit down & tell the men we’re sharing our beds with that a positive sign showed up a pregnancy test. And we’re being salty here, let’s recognize the fact that setting up an abortion appointment shouldn’t be done with the ease of scheduling a weekly nail appointment. 

For those of you who are currently faced with an unplanned pregnancy, please know that you are not alone. There are options other than abortion. There are tons of great agencies out there that can help you. Please feel free to message me if you need to talk. 

For those of you who have chosen abortion, you don’t have to feel alone in the aftermath. I know far too many women who had abortions to “get rid of” their “problem” and are still suffering from the decision they made because they are too ashamed to talk to anyone about it. Well I’m here; you may not know me but I’m here if you want to talk just message me. More than that, Jesus is there for you. He will forgive you if you go to Him. He loves you no matter what has happened in the past, he will not turn away from you, he gave his life willingly for you.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

                                      -Romans 5:8